I’ve never been a big fan of using the word journey as a metaphor, despite its connotations of travelling a personal path of discovery. It therefore felt fitting to embark on an actual, physical journey while catching up with an old friend. What better way to continue embracing my encroaching levels of middle-aged madness than by taking a ride on a steam train?
I left the house quietly, greeted by a bright but chilly spring morning. No dog today, and her sorrowful look of hurt and betrayal when I didn’t pick up the lead brought a momentary pang of guilt. It was one of those days when you dress for the immediate temperature, knowing full well you’ll rue the jeans-and-shirt combination later. With the radio on and a near-empty A303 at my mercy, I made light work of the trip to Alton in Hampshire. Passing Stonehenge along the way, I was reminded how painfully uninspiring it is to behold. The fact that a major arterial carriageway passes within touching distance doesn’t help. Tunnel plans have existed for years without fruition; with it, the site would be instantly transformed, allowing the stones to sit engulfed in the sweeping Wiltshire landscape.
My arrival in Alton was matched almost perfectly by my friend’s. A customary handshake and man hug were followed by a look around his new car. I begrudgingly accepted that it probably did offer a more satisfying driving experience than my brown Astra, though we agreed not to let that tarnish the day. With that settled, we strolled towards the station.

I’m happy to admit that I love a bit of nostalgia. The chance to immerse myself in yesteryear, and to appreciate how things once were, is genuinely heart-warming. The world we live in now, where time feels more precious than ever, only increases stress as we race to meet increasingly unachievable deadlines. Patience is rarely celebrated; if anything, it’s seen as unproductive. So, when the train made its graceful appearance at the platform, an escape from the norm, however brief, was gratefully received.
The Watercress Line runs for ten miles between Alton and New Alresford. Purchased from British Railways in 1975, it became fully operational across the entire stretch by 1985. Run largely by dedicated volunteers, it offers a window into how we once travelled. It would be easy to fill pages charting its history and appeal, but I’ll leave that curiosity for others to pursue. What matters is how reassuring it is to see such an integral part of our heritage carefully cherished. The attention to detail can’t help but raise a smile.
Stepping aboard, I’m hit by sensory déjà vu. The unmistakable slam of the doors. The familiar sights and smells of the interior. I may have been brought up after steam, but the carriages take me straight back to childhood days when my Nan would take me on outings to see the Beefeaters at the Tower of London or the elephants at London Zoo.

The train made steady progress through gentle countryside, giving us time to talk. Opening up and admitting that you haven’t been functioning very well isn’t easy, which is why having the right people around at the right moments matters. Acquaintances come and go, but friends are the extended family we choose. The next thirty minutes gave my friend the chance to demonstrate a quality we could all use more of: active listening. Not just hearing the words, but concentrating on the speaker and responding thoughtfully, without judgment. It’s a skill rooted in humility, and I was quietly grateful for the kindness on offer.
Alighting in New Alresford, it’s immediately clear why the steam train is such a fitting way to arrive. We’re greeted by a bustling Georgian market town, its broad streets and colour-washed houses offering a spectacle that’s as welcome as it is unexpected. A couple of hostelries and cafés are mentally bookmarked for later, and we let our legs carry us towards the start of our walk.

One of my aims for the day was to enjoy the beauty of a chalk stream. There are only around 200 chalk rivers globally, with over 85% located across southern and eastern England, firmly within the realm of the quintessentially English. The River Arle, a tributary of the Itchen, would mark both our start and end points. The stream has been rightfully embraced here, with a clear trail leading us to the riverbank.
The following mile is truly stunning. Crystal-clear water slips over gravel beds, nourishing flora that sways rhythmically with the flow. The clarity defies comprehension; there’s no reflection in the bright sunshine, only a window into life below the surface. We stand and stare while sizeable trout glide against the current and swans keep watch over their territory. It’s easy to imagine this scene forming the backdrop to countless Instagram posts, but moments like this have a way of blocking everything else out, leaving you simply present.

As the path narrows and lifts away from the river, broad views open across the surrounding countryside and watercress meadows below. Seeing first-hand how this nutrient-rich plant grows makes it easy to understand both its reputation as a superfood and its importance to the area. The well-marked footpaths allow conversation to unfold naturally. Walking side by side, rather than face to face, makes space for easy talk about sport, cars, food, holidays, and even the occasional snippet of sound investment advice, while still leaving time to pause and admire the view.
For many years, I gauged success by distance, pace, time and challenge. If it didn’t involve suffering, it felt lacking. While there’s still a place for pushing myself, I’ve become more open to slowing down and removing the need to perform. The pressure, I’ve realised, was always self-imposed.

Once we left the river, we barely saw another soul. The circular route meandered through tree-lined passages itching to burst into life, offering a moment of indulgent solitude. Dropping back to the valley floor, our final stretch led us towards the town once more. Thatched cottages and a strong sense of character made it the perfect place to finish our six-mile wander.
With ninety minutes to spare before the return train, a pub garden and a good feed were very welcome. Back at the station, we found our seats and sat there looking quietly pleased with ourselves. A shrill whistle signalled departure, and the train began to pull away. I half-expected to see a mildly agitated Poirot shuffling down the carriage, or Miss Marple gazing wistfully out of the window on her way home after ruining the day of a murderous vicar.
Today was as much about friendship as it was wandering. The train, scenery, and walk simply provided the vessel. It was a timely reminder that keeping in touch, reaching out and making the effort is always worth it. You never know when it might be needed.

My niece has moved to Liphook down the road from Alton so somewhere to go when I visit her.
What a wonderful gift of listening your friend gave you. When we start to share we discover we’re not alone on this meander through life. The ups, downs, detours and dead ends all contribute to making sense of who we are and in what situations we are our best version of ourselves. It’s often the tough times that we learn the most. Discovering the values that are important to us. Keep opening up and learning xx